Kristi McAllister, Chief Coloring Officer and Princess in Residence at Truly Madly Sassy asked about regret, and her question hit me…really hit me. Do you have any regrets? Loaded question…and here’s a curious answer.
I spent the first three or so decades of my life behaving.
It took me about 35 years to come to grips with the fact that I was an imposter.
During this time, it was quite easy to dig around searching for things to be angry about.
A perceived slight from a friend; I ran out of toilet paper; you name it, and I could get mad about it. But all that started to really suck. I wasn’t sleeping well, and my health was suffering, mentally and physically.
I won’t say I skipped depression, but I think it was out of order.
I said all that so I could share this about regret: STOP.
The only regret I have, truly, is that I didn’t wake up sooner to creating a blissful life, instead of leaving it up to someone else. It’s our choice. That’s the beauty of it. It’s simple, but not always easy. Nothing about those years of discovery and change were easy, but they got me here, and here is just where I want to be.
Melissa makes her home in Northeast Tennessee and wears many hats! She’s a creative writer, a fantastic artist, a kick-ass jewelry creator, an incredible massage therapist, and a college professor. She is also a certified yoga instructor and uses creativity to reconnect us with the long-lost parts of ourselves. You can find Melissa on her website or on social media by clicking below.
“I’ve a couple of regrets, most time I imagine if I was the one that “”did that”” and I regret ever doing it but one thing is certain that no matter what, one can’t get rid of things totally that may lead to regrets in the future. Life is in stages and any stage you find yourself you act accordingly and later some deeds may be regrettable. The fact is, we just have to learn from our regrets and move on.. I love this piece. Thanks for putting this up.”
Hi Lizzy! I agree with you 100%. Hindsight is always 20/20 and learning from our regrets makes us better people in the long run. Thank you for commenting! Hope to see you again soon on TMS!
“Melissa, I’m fortunate to have a man in my life who has always encouraged me to live and be free, have fun, misbehave. Well-behaved women seldom make history! I used to have regrets until I realized every decision and event in my life has made we who I am.”
“I would have to agree with you, and I know Melissa would too :)”
“Not just once, I’ve regretted over some things I do in the past. Regrets are inevitable and they also help us to learn. Once you come to realize your past actions and you’d feel like “”I can’t believe I did this””, it makes you sad and the only thing thing is to learn from such situations and move on. Great topic. Thanks!”
“Cindy, you make a very good point. Thanks for stopping in! Hope you’ll come back! :)”
“I don’t have any major regrets but I do hope I was not trying to please everyone all the time, putting my own wishes and needs second (or at the bottom of the pile). “”Being true to myself”” is the issue here as well I guess.”
“Emma, I think as women, we all have issues being true to ourselves and putting our needs above everyone else’s. We are raised to be the nurturer, the caretaker, the great mother, the wonderful wife…it goes on and on! But one thing I’ve come to recognize is that if I don’t take care of “”me””, I don’t do as good of a job taking care of everybody else. Thanks for your comment!”
Everyone have a couple regrets. But the best thing to do if you regret something is just don’t let it drag you down and learn from you mistake.
“Regrets are always a lesson, no doubt! Thanks for commenting, Ricky!”