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I am the voice of Truly Madly Sassy and currently reside in Northeast Tennessee with my dog Snickers. I’m a full-time mental health advocate, a most-of-the-time writer, a part-time mermaid, and a self-proclaimed princess. I’m a lover of all things chocolate, a staunch Starbucks addict, a sap for Rumi’s poetry, and a tried-and-true believer in happily ever after.
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Awesome Blog Madam on Love
Thank you so much. Great to see you again!
This is the pain if relationships don’t work out.. With Love Jasminhttps://lollipopkosmetik.wordpress.com/2017/09/28/winter-blues-nein-danke/
Thank you Jasmin for commenting on TMS! Come back anytime 🙂
I hope your Mermaid Life helps you heal.
“Thank you so, so much Bernadette. One day at a time! It’s getting better.”
“Yes very true, if you lose your partner your friends need to decide which one of you they want to stick as friend and which one they give up. This is pain if relationships don’t work out”
“Thankfully, none of my friends took his side. In fact, I’m surprised none of them have strung him up yet! Especially my best friends Tracie, Kena, and Kyra. His day might be coming, who knows LOL! Thanks for commenting!”
“I’m so sorry that you had to go through so many painful things like losing your friends so quickly apart and also that divorce. But, I also think all these experiences have made you stronger even if, some days, you might not feel like it. I can related as I’ve lost a few people along the way and while I have days when I don’t want to get out of bed, there are also those where I ask myself Would my friends want me to stay in bed and just stop living? and the answer is simply No.. They would want me to LIVE as I’ve never before and be happy. And that’s what your friends want for you as well.”
Thanks Madeline for your thoughts and kind words. Loved seeing you here on TMS!
“I loved this one, Kristi. You’ve come so far in the last year and the beach life really does agree with you as you radiate happiness now. Far different from the girl I sat and talked with back in January who was searching for answers. You aren’t searching anymore and it’s awesome to see your face light up when you talk about the things that you have passion for. I hope this journey only gets better and better for you!”
“Michael!!! <3 Thank you for commenting! It's taken a lot to get me here, and next time you're on the island, I would love to catch up over coffee. XoXo!"
“Sadly, there are more men out there like him than there are who aren’t like him. I know exactly how you feel because I love one from a great distance as well. I really love your blog and you are more “”schooled in wisdom”” than I think you realize.”
“Good morning Gwendolyn! I think you are right! And thanks for the kudos–we live and learn, don’t we?! Thanks for stopping in!”
“How often, as women, do we blame ourselves for the brokenness in another person? All the time. I think it is innate in us to try to take care of others that we love before taking care of ourselves. Kudos to you for learning to love yourself more than you loved him. Defeat is not yours.”
“Janice, I think you are right. It’s innate in us. Learning to love myself first has been a huge challenge for me, that’s for sure. I still love him, and likely always will, but what I love the most is the person he used to be, but not the person he’s become. It’s sad to me that the man I thought he was never existed. Thanks for your comment.”
Kristi – sometimes broken people don’t want to be fixed. There is a such thing as being addicted to drama.
You said it! My life is drama-free since moving away from him. Thanks for commenting! 🙂
Sometimes I feel like you are writing about my life. I am glad to know I’m not the only woman who loves a broken man.
Hi Lauren! I think there are either a lot of us or a lot of them 😉 Glad you’re enjoying the blog! Hope to see you again.
“I do not know you, but every time I read a blog about him I can feel how deeply you love that man. The pain you feel just tumbles out when you write about him and I am sad that you’re sad. The people that you reach (women like me) admire you for the strength you keep tapping into so that you can keep going. I wish you love and light on your journey without the man that you love.”
“Thank you Rihannon! I wish I was able to just will away the sadness (and the love!), but all that comes with time. Stop in again! <3"
“Sorry for the loss of your friends, and sorry that it didn’t work out with your man. I used to always be drawn to “”broken men.”” My Dad was actually the person to point this out. He said, that I always had away of picking men that had issues. I learnt that you can’t help “”mend”” someone that doesn’t want to be “”mended,”” that you should ALWAYS put yourself first, and that you deserve the to be loved and treated well. All the relationships I were in where I felt the need to help “”fix”” or “”mend”” the man, ended terribly. I now think of them as toxic relationships and stay well away from there. The last relationship I was in like that ended in lots of mental abusive – he definitely took his issues out on me. My ex turned into a paranoid, verbally abusive person, who used to constantly out me down, I guess to make himself feel better. Eventually he cheated on me and got some other woman pregnant. Now I think it a God send that the relationship ended. It was only a year that we were together, but it was one of the most depressing years of my life. So I think it was good you got out when you did – personally, you always need to put yourself first, and “”broken men”” are not worth the hassle or the risk. Maybe that seems a bit harsh, but I guess that’s just life. Enjoy your time in North Carolina and your mermaid life – I’ve met a few people from Canada that head there for the winter months, and it sounds really nice! “
“Hi Kelly! You hit the nail on the head when you spoke about toxic relationships. And sometimes, the thing we think we want the most are the things we need the least! Thanks for commenting! I always look forward to “”seeing”” you here! And PS: I highly recommend the mermaid life!!! :)”
If it was about love, he would be with you and not where he is. Appearances and social status are things he values more, and those things are temporary. Love is the only thing that lasts and he will recognize this when it’s too late. He missed the boat. Don’t look back. What he’s done to you he will do to others. Miss you friend. So proud of you.
“Oh, truer words have never been spoken. I hate I saw it “”too late””. See you when I’m home in May to pack up the condo. Miss you!”
Brave woman. Gentle soul. Keep healing.
Thank you Bonnie!! XoXo
“I always get excited when you post a new thing because I know that no matter what it is, I’ll be able to relate to it. This one is one of the best yet. You should get that book going again!”
“Hi Tonya! Nice to hear from you! 🙂 Thanks for the compliment…and yes…the book…egads…my mind can’t even stay focused enough for the blog sometimes, so imagine me trying to finish that book! HA! But I am gonna finish it…at some point…hahaha! Give me a call soon so we can catch up on old times!!!!!!!!”
Yes! All true! Broken people are hard to fix. Be glad you ran.
“Sometimes, running is the only way to heal a heart. And all of us are broken–just some more than others. Thanks for stopping in Vanessa!”
“You surely have a way with words and I enjoy every weekly email that I get from you. And there are times when we have to run to save our own personal sanity, so if you’re judging yourself about that, cease and desist. Cannot wait to read more from you.”
“Thank you so much Donna. I am enjoying using the blog as a creative outlet. As for judging myself for running, I’m not. I as much as anyone deserve a fresh start/clean slate and I hate I waited this long to do it. Could have saved myself a lot of heartache had I just done it two years ago when I planned to. Looking forward to chatting with you again!”
“Sheer perfection! You’ve gone and done it again, Kristi. Love it.”
“Thank you so much, Kay! I am humbled by your kindness.”
“Just wow. Are you sure we didn’t love the same man? Sharing, sharing, sharing this. So glad I found your blog on facebook!”
“Heck, we may have haha! Thanks for sharing it, Connie! Hope to see you again!
So raw; so good! Wow! That’s great and I know it’s all too true.
Susan!!! You totally just made my weekend! Thanks for always cheering me on and holding my hand during the hard times. I am so happy we found each other again after all these years! Pretty cool to be back in touch with my childhood bestie from Weavers! XoXo!