Every human being on the planet has some semblance of narcissism, but there are those out there, men and women, who are full-blown-real-life-textbook narcissists.
You know the type: charming, charismatic, well-liked by others (until they get to know who the narcissist REALLY is, and then they don’t like them at all!). They appear confident and happy, with a devil-may-care attitude, and they make you feel like you’re the only person in the entire world when you are in their presence. Everything seems perfect: they sweep you off your feet (aka love bombing), make you feel special, and when you least expect it, they’ll jerk the rug right out from under you and then blame you for it by saying you tripped over your own two feet. How do I know so much about these kinds of behaviors? I loved a narcissist—I just didn’t know that’s what he was until it was way too late for the damage to be easily undone.
- Sense of entitlement
- Boundary issues (hint: they don’t have any!)
- Extreme dishonesty
- Excessively charming
- Grandiose sense of self (mine actually told me several years ago that he was an “urban legend” in our hometown when I confronted him about his behavior with another woman in a bar—which of course, he denied).
- Craves admiration/attention
- Views women as conquests/sexual objects
- Financially irresponsible and uses others for resources
- Usually has multiple “psycho” exes
- Lack of empathy
- Extreme arrogance
- Unable to maintain long-term relationships
- Usually in a position of power and uses it to his/her advantage
- Chronically cheats and then lies about it or justifies it
- Creates confusion and doubt
- Uses hot-and-cold behavior
- Blames others
- Exploits vulnerability in others for his/her own gain
- Uses silent treatment as punishment
- Exhibits predatory behavior, particularly towards the opposite sex
- Continuously abuses others mentally, emotionally, and sometimes physically
- Never accepts responsibility for his/her actions
- Says things like “You’re overthinking everything”. Or “You’re making a big deal out of nothing”. And “You’re always assuming the worst about me”, etc.
- And last but not least? IT’S ALWAYS ABOUT THEM.
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I am the voice of Truly Madly Sassy and currently reside on the coast of North Carolina with my dog Snickers. I’m a full-time social work major, a most-of-the-time writer, a part-time mermaid, and a self-proclaimed princess. I’m a lover of all things chocolate, a staunch Starbucks addict, a sap for Rumi’s poetry, and a tried-and-true believer in happily ever after.