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Grief • Hope • Love
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I am the voice of Truly Madly Sassy and currently reside in Northeast Tennessee with my dog Snickers. I’m a full-time mental health advocate, a most-of-the-time writer, a part-time mermaid, and a self-proclaimed princess. I’m a lover of all things chocolate, a staunch Starbucks addict, a sap for Rumi’s poetry, and a tried-and-true believer in happily ever after.
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What an amazing piece. I’ve could have used this a few years back myself but I was young and thought I knew what I wanted. They say times heals wounds but I feel like we just get used to the pain.
I think you’re exactly right, Kari…I don’t think time heals anything…I think we just become numb to it. He and I are still in touch and we talk about us and what went wrong a lot. Usually, it’s me busting his rear over his past behavior, but he accepts it because he knows he didn’t make the right decisions. While he has been one of my biggest sources of pain when it comes to romantic relationships, he’s also been my biggest joy. It’s such a catch-22 really. Thank you for commenting. I’m always so excited to see your name pop up on TMS! XoXo!
“Yes I agree with your article. It’s GREAT. I LOVED it so THANX!
Thanks Oussaa! Nice to see you again!!
Kristi! you write beautifully! You have amazing talent. Not many people (including myself) can display how they feel so openly thus allowing the reader to become immersed in the text. Very touching and sincere story.
“Alexander, thank you so much for saying that. I am humbled by your comments. I hope to see you back on Truly Madly Sassy again soon!”
“Your blogs are awesome madam, nice and informative”
“You are much too kind, Karthik…thank you very much!”
This! Thank you for your emotional tour into your world. Very good read.
“Hi Mikey! Thanks so much for commenting! And one thing I’ve learned about being a writer is this: the more transparent we are, the more likely our readers can relate to what we are saying. Please drop in again!”
Such a powerful post!
“Thank you so much, Marienne! Nice to see you on Truly Madly Sassy!”
This is so heartbreaking. Anyone who is dealing with a beoken heart could really relate to this. I am saving your blog…
Hi Apple! Thank you for saving it and for taking time to read it. I think we can all relate to a broken heart since I’m sure all of us have been there. Much love to you as you heal!
“Personal, heart touching, raw. You words drew me in and touched my heart. I hope you keep writing, unraveling, and shifting to something better than you hope for.”
“Thank you so much, Suzanne. Unraveling is indeed raw! I liken it to a caterpillar that becomes a butterfly: so much transformation takes place when we are forced to grow. Please do visit me again here at TMS! I am humbled by your comment!”
We’ve all loved a man the way you love him and those soul ties as you call them don’t pull apart easily. Thank you for sharing what lies on your heart. There are so many of us out there who get it.
“Ah, I love it when I hear someone say they get it! I think until a woman has been there, she can’t possibly understand that kind of love. Thanks, Rosie, for commenting on TMS!”
You are such a treasure. Don’t forget that.
Thank you Sarah. Thank you.
I love you sweet friend….one day at a time. That’s all we can do. Stay positive and pray
“I love you too Ky. You’ve been with me through every step of it, even at times I know you didn’t want to be. 24 years of friendship and we’ve only had one disagreement: over him. I’d say our track record is pretty good as far as being BFFs.”
“I didn’t know this. It hits home for me. I cry too. Thank you for sharing. I feel a bit more healed.
“Awww LaniI didn’t know you were struggling with the same thing, friend. The whole point of starting this blog is to not only heal myself, but to somehow heal others too. Thank you for being a part of my world…and you know I’m only a message or phone call away if you need a shoulder to cry on. XoXo!”
“I noticed in this one how he went from the man who had your heart to the him he used to be. I think that’s rather interesting because it seems the love you have for him, although still present, is shifting and shifting is good. I love your blog.”
“Thank you for commenting on TMS, LeAnne…and believe it or not, until you said it, I didn’t notice that. Here’s to shifting…”
“You make unraveling look ravishing, darling. Keep your chin up.”
“Thank you, thank you!”
“I don’t know that we can ever stop loving a person. Maybe we shouldn’t try. Perhaps we just learn to let the love be, and live with the hurt as best we can until one day the raw place becomes a battle scar. Hugs my dear!”
“I wish we could un-love them, but so far, I don’t believe we can do that either. My friend Tiffany says that one day, you just wake up, and it doesn’t hurt anymore. It hurts a little less as time goes on, but that feeling of betrayal is always ready to spill over. I have grieved more for him than I ever grieved for my former husband and the 21 years we spent together. Ridiculous and profound at the same time.”