Truly • Madly • Sassy

The Village We Lost

Six years ago, virtually everything that signified home to me ceased to be. In the span of a few months I was no longer anyone’s wife, no longer anyone’s daughter, and my active phase of mothering had come to an end as my eldest married and my youngest left home. To say my world seemed to stop ... Read More about The Village We Lost

Caitlyn Siehl: Do Not Fall In Love With People Like Me

Do not fall in love with people like me. people like me will love you so hard that you turn into stone into a statue where people come to marvel at how long it must have taken to carve that faraway look into your eyes. Do not fall in love with people like me we will take you to museums ... Read More about Caitlyn Siehl: Do Not Fall In Love With People Like Me

Finding Joy When There Isn’t Enough To Go Around

On March 6, 2015, Miriam's life began again. Due to end-stage lung disease, she had waited over six months on the transplant list. And for someone like her, that felt like forever. She had come precariously close to the unimaginable; but, on that remarkable day, because of an anonymous organ donor, ... Read More about Finding Joy When There Isn’t Enough To Go Around

Why Having Low Expectations Is More Awesome Than It Sounds

Having low expectations is often associated with failure and laziness. But low expectations might not actually be as bad as we’re used to thinking. Just when I think about my casual life, the best times I remember are the days and nights I had absolutely no expectation of being special. I’m a ... Read More about Why Having Low Expectations Is More Awesome Than It Sounds

Before & After: Life’s Benchmarks

There are days in our lives which we always remember and refer to as “before —, and after —”. A major “before and after” event marks the end of one chapter and the beginning of another. It allows us to keep track of when other things happened because our frame of reference is forever changed. We ... Read More about Before & After: Life’s Benchmarks

David Whyte: Sweet Darkness

A few years ago, I went on a weekend retreat with some amazing women! Several things were happening in my life at that time, so the facilitator shared this poem by David Whyte and I fell head over heels in love with his work. I hope that it speaks to you as much as it did to me. Here's ... Read More about David Whyte: Sweet Darkness

Dreams Aren’t Enough

I had all these dreams as a child. Somewhere along the way, though, I stopped. I stopped doing the things that brought me joy and stopped believing in all the possibilities the world offered. I can pinpoint some specific instances, but mostly it was a slow drift away from joy toward complacency. ... Read More about Dreams Aren’t Enough

15 Things I’ve Learned About Blogging

Blogging isn't easy! In fact, it's one of the most complicated, yet rewarding things that I've ever done. And since Truly Madly Sassy turned 1 on December 30th (and since I was on a much needed holiday break when it happened), I wanted to share with you what I've learned during this first year. So, ... Read More about 15 Things I’ve Learned About Blogging

What Is A Best Friend?

Besties, BFF’s, partners in crime—whatever you want to call them, best friends rock. They celebrate our happy moments, hold our hands through the darkness, and let us know in a thousand ways that we are not alone. Best friends make us laugh and they keep us sane. Besties offer comfort when we’re ... Read More about What Is A Best Friend?

Reclaiming: When You Ride The Struggle Bus

“So, you’re on the struggle bus huh?” “OMG Seth, you don’t even know. I left my support system! My friends! I couldn’t wait to move here, and now I’m wondering what the hell I’ve done.” “It was a big move.” “I know…but I had to get away from him…(inaudible words)…he betrayed me! On every single ... Read More about Reclaiming: When You Ride The Struggle Bus

Dear Lost Love…

Dear Lost Love, It’s been almost 20 years and I still dream of you. I wonder how it would have been had I answered that one question differently so long ago. The one where you asked, “So you don’t want anything to stand in your way of leaving?” Now, the person I have become would’ve asked what ... Read More about Dear Lost Love…

Grief: Remembering Kara

Grief is a funny thing, and not in a haha way.I feel like it's been a long time since I've written about grief. February, though, is a sad reminder of it because, on February 8, 2016, my friend Kara died very unexpectedly in the arms of the man she loved. I met Kara in 1994 when we both worked for ... Read More about Grief: Remembering Kara